18 things I’ve learned by the age of 18

1. Friends come and go.

If you’re not losing friends, you’re not growing up. There’s no point forcing someone to stay in your life when it’s clear that it’s not the same anymore and they’re not putting in the same amount of effort you give in. You are constantly meeting new people who have the potential to be an even better friend than the one you’ve lost, it all happens within time…

2. Family is everything.

Especially your parents, who were there for you since day one. Make the most out of spending time with family and appreciate what they do for you. You never know when they could be gone for good.

3. Do the hard things first

Often while procrastinating, I would leave the thing that bothers me the most and seems the most challenging till the last. But this gives me no peace of mind and that thing I need to get done is always stuck in my mind until I do it. So now I try to get the hardest thing out of the way first.

4. Don’t depend on others to make you happy.

The truth that so many people miss is that happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a job or a degree. It starts with your thoughts and what you tell yourself everyday.

5. Being private and low-key is the best way to be.

Nothing good ever comes from too many people knowing your business. Before I used to be the type of person who would tell everyone everything that was going on in my life, but recently I’ve learned that if people aren’t my close friends or family, they don’t need to know about my personal life. Most of the time talking to too many people about things would result in even more people finding out (in which some would be the last person you’d want to tell something to).

6. Don’t neglect your friends just because you’re in a relationship.

I think a lot of people need to learn how to properly balance and manage their friends and the relationship they’re in, and not neglect one for the other. If you consistently push your friends away because you’re in a relationship, they may not be there for you after you’ve broken up with someone because of the way you treated them.

7. If someone’s meant to be in your life, they’ll always come back no matter how long it takes.

This situation happened when I fell out with one of my closest friends from before because it was all getting too much, and we had a year and a half break from each other without any contact. Then one day we were at the same gathering as one of our friend’s and talked to each other and gradually became best friends again.

8. Stop worrying about what others think of you. It doesn’t matter.

Although I haven’t properly managed to do this yet, life will become much easier when you stop caring what people think.

9. Don’t be afraid to be alone.

Recently I’ve enjoyed being in my own company more than I have before. Just because you spend some of your time alone doesn’t make you lonely. Spend the night re-reading your favourite book. Go for a walk by yourself. Be alone, and be okay with it.

10. Time heals almost everything.

Just give it time.

11. Stop stressing about the things you can’t control.

12. Don’t rush into a relationship with someone.

You need to spend time getting to know that person that could be your potential boyfriend/girlfriend, and rushing into anything will most likely result in rushing straight back out of it. Most people tend to jump into a relationship and then get to know the person, when it should be the other way around.

13. Enjoy being single.

I would much rather be single than in a wrong and toxic relationship. It really isn’t a bad thing like people make it out to be, and it’s a time where you can really focus and improve yourself. If there’s one thing I’d tell my single friends it’d be to enjoy being single until the right person comes along who’s all about them. It happens when you least expect it.

14. Stop falling for words, start falling for actions.

15. You can’t change what’s already happened.

So don’t waste your time thinking about it. Move on, let go, and get over it.

16. A small amount of friends is much better than a ton of “friends”.

I would rather have a small number of people in my life who always have my back than an unlimited amount of friends who are only friends with you because they see you on a regular basis or who don’t really care about your well-being at all.

17. Don’t expect too high.

Or you’ll end up disappointed.

18. Working out improves your day.

For me, exercise is so therapeutic and after coming back from the gym I feel a lot happier and more productive.



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